10 Ways to Find “Me” Time So You Relax & Recharge

Homeschooling can be an incredibly rewarding experience for your entire family. Your children get a top-quality education, and you get to spend lots of time together. But, as a homeschooling mom, you probably already know that homeschooling can be a frustrating, busy, and stressful time.

With so much to do for your kids, interruptions, phone calls, and meals to prepare, it’s easy to feel drained and deflated at the end of the day. You can end up with no time for yourself.

These 10 simple tips will help you relax and recharge, so that you can support your family with less stress.

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1. Schedule Time for Yourself

You make detailed schedules for your kids, so why not do so for yourself? Get a planner just for you, and schedule in at least an hour each day (try to make it 2!) to do something just for yourself.

It can be yoga, watching TV, reading, or whatever you enjoy that makes you feel relaxed. You might have to break it up into 2 or more separate intervals over the course of the day.


2. Delegate

Don’t try to do everything yourself, that’s a recipe for disaster. Make lists for the kids, so that they can help you out with chores during the day and so that you don’t have to constantly remind them to do basic things like brush their teeth.


3. Ask for help

This goes along with delegation, but don’t be afraid to ask for and accept help. Everybody needs help and support in their lives, especially homeschooling moms!

Consider whom you might call on in stressful situations. Who could help lighten your burden, even just for a few minutes? Could your husband, in-laws, parents or a friend help by taking the kids for a few hours?

If people offer to help, let them, and always ask for help before things become overwhelming.



4. Go With the Flow

You don’t have to be perfect! Your kids will get a fine education even if you miss out on completing one item in your planner, and even if you don’t finish the entire book chapter the day you had originally planned.

Accept that schedules will change and that some days will be slower than others, but always remember that in the end, you’ll get there. Just be willing to adapt schedules as necessary.


5. Take weekends off

Public school isn’t in session 7 days a week, so why should your homeschooling operate each day? Weekends are a crucial time for recharging your batteries. Sleep in, take the kids to the park, spend a lazy afternoon reading the paper.

It’s easy to try to use weekends as an opportunity to catch up on things you missed during the weekdays, but don’t—it’ll just lead to long-frustration, and the things you missed will still be there on Monday; you can complete them then!

Use weekends for things you don’t get much of during the week—like sleep and quality quiet time to yourself. Enforce the idea of weekends being a break for the whole family, and let everyone use the time to decompress.

You’ll all feel much better for it on Monday morning.


6. Get out of The House

Seriously! As a homeschooling mom, it can be so easy to fall into a pattern of staying at home 24/7, taking care of the kids and everything else.

At least one day a week, aim to get out of the house to do something for yourself—not just to do the weekly grocery shopping!

Arrange childcare, if needed. Getting out of the house, especially if you’ve been cooped up in it for days on end, will instantly change your perspective.

Spending time in the fresh air or people-watching will help you return to homeschooling duties with a clear head and more energy.

7. Knock out Noise

Having a noisy home environment really zaps your concentration and makes even the easiest task take 10 times longer than it should. You can’t get any quality “me” time in that kind of environment, so do everything you can to establish a quiet house, especially between the hours of 8am-4pm (typical public school hours).

Turn off the TV, turn the phone on silent, and have calls sent to voicemail. Schedule one or two times per day to check messages, but no more than that. Don’t try to be in constant contact with everybody.

If family members or friends tend to try and drop by unannounced during the day, explain to them that these hours are reserved for homeschooling and tell them when they can come by instead.

If all else fails, post a sign on your front door that says you’re working between certain hours (though hopefully, it won’t come to that!).


8. Go to Bed Early

It can be tempting to stay up late in order to get in your “me” time, and the stresses of the day may weigh on your mind, keeping you up at night.

Though it’s easier said than done, try to get everyone in your house on an early bedtime schedule, including yourself. You’ll all feel so much more well-rested and healthier, and it’ll make the homeschooling days much easier.

Sleep is restorative to your mind and body, so it’s some of the best “me” time you could ask for!


9. Plan Ahead (and Adapt)

In order to get time to yourself, you have to plan your days—not down to the minute, but you do need to have a general idea of what times you’ll do homeschooling, what times will be mealtimes, etc.

How many hours a day will you homeschool? When will you have mealtimes? What about relaxation times? Meals can be one of the biggest sources of family frustration, so try to plan the meals for the week ahead on the weekends and maybe do some extra cooking then, if you can.

If something doesn’t go to plan, that’s okay, but having a plan will allow you to find much more time for yourself than you will if you have no plan at all!

More than anything else, try to schedule quiet “downtime” during the day, where the kids can play or study quietly. Use this as a time to get some rest for yourself or do something you enjoy.

Give yourself permission to have downtime—-working all day is never a good plan!



10. Don’t Take on Too Much

Homeschooling is a big commitment, and many parents try to involve their homeschooled children in several different “after-school” activities like music lessons, sports, or art classes.

While these are certainly important, avoid the pressure to be involved in absolutely everything. The last thing you need after a long day of homeschooling is to be driving children to three or four hours of different activities—these can make for very late nights for everybody, which will leave you all exhausted and irritable the next day.

Allow your children to choose one or two things they enjoy, but not seven!

As a homeschooling family, spending quality, happy time together as your kids grow up is important—it’s probably one of the main reasons you chose to homeschool in the first place, so don’t lose sight of that!

With a little advance planning and support, you can find time for yourself as a homeschooling mom. It just takes a bit of organization, dedication, and a quiet environment. I hope these tips help you stress less, and good luck in your homeschooling journey!

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